许多家长都曾经历孩子明确表示偏爱其中一位家长的情况。对此，研究表明这种现象是正常的，并不反映爱的程度差异[1]。
儿童通常倾向于寻求提供更多安慰和日常照顾的照顾者，但这种倾向主要源于熟悉度而非更深层的感情联系[1]。这些偏好并非固定不变，会因具体情况、日常习惯而异，并可能随着家庭角色的变化而改变[1]。
针对这一现象，专家建议家长采取务实态度。具体措施包括：避免过度解读孩子的表现、通过规律陪伴维持亲子关系、采用一致的教养方式，同时要承认孩子的感受但保持现实预期[1]。不过，在某些情况下家长应当寻求专业帮助，特别是当偏好突然出现在重大家庭变化之后，或伴随更广泛的情感和行为困难时[1]。
Children frequently display an apparent preference for one parent over the other, a phenomenon that appears puzzling to many caregivers. However, research indicates that these preferences typically reflect familiarity rather than the depth of love a child feels toward each parent [1]. Such preferences are often temporary and tend to shift as family roles and circumstances evolve [1].
When children seek comfort or daily care from a particular caregiver, they are responding to who provides the most frequent reassurance and routine support in their lives [1]. Parents should avoid over-interpreting these moments as indicators of unequal affection. Instead, experts recommend maintaining consistent parenting approaches, ensuring regular and engaged time with children, and acknowledging their feelings while keeping realistic expectations [1]. In most cases, these preferences resolve naturally as children develop and family dynamics change.
Professional guidance may be warranted in certain circumstances [1]. If a child suddenly exhibits a strong preference following a major family transition, or if the preference is accompanied by broader emotional or behavioral difficulties, parents should consider seeking expert support [1].
