心理性治疗师Safari Lee在悉尼晨报撰文，针对如何进行理想的第一次接吻提出了专业建议。Lee建议采用70:30比例而非电影《Hitch》中所述的90:10规则，认为后者可能会让对方感到"即将被吞噬"的不适[1]。
Lee强调，第一次接吻的关键在于尊重与连接，而非完美执行。他建议首先征得对方明确同意，指出"在一次美妙约会后，两人坐得很近，化学反应逐渐产生，此时询问'我可以亲你吗？'能让对方感到被尊重和渴望"[1]。在得到同意后，应从轻吻开始，作为一种测试，随后可根据对方反应逐步尝试轻微舌头接触[1]。此外，保持口腔清洁也被列为重要考虑因素[1]。Lee认为，接吻的核心目的是享受和建立连接，而非追求某种既定的技术标准[1]。
Psychosexual therapist Safari Lee has shared expert guidance on executing the perfect first kiss, recommending a 70:30 approach rather than the 90:10 rule popularized in the film Hitch.[1] According to Lee, the 90:10 ratio "might make you feel you're about to be devoured," making the alternative proportion more comfortable for both parties.[1]
Lee emphasizes that consent forms the foundation of any successful first kiss.[1] The therapist suggests that after a promising date with building chemistry, one partner should directly ask for permission, saying something like "Is it OK if I kiss you?" — an approach that makes the other person "feel respected and desired."[1] Rather than assuming consent through the absence of explicit rejection, Lee stresses the importance of clear communication.
The recommended technique involves beginning with a soft kiss to gauge receptiveness before gradually increasing intensity.[1] If the initial contact is well-received, light tongue contact may follow as the kiss deepens.[1] Lee frames the core purpose of kissing as mutual enjoyment and emotional connection rather than technical perfection.[1]