从“秒回”到“慢递”：年轻人为何重新爱上笔友？

在即时通讯时代，部分年轻人重新爱上手写书信和“笔友”关系，将其视为一种“慢社交”。1 这一现象反映了当代青年对深度情感连接和心理疗愈的渴求。1

2025年6月10日，瑞士留学生王夕照发布笔友招募帖，收到逾3000封来信，已回信数百封。1 王夕照认为书信是“交换生活的重量”，并在信中运用阿尔茨海默病研究背景解答笔友关于“预期性哀伤”的困惑。1

受访者姜嘉与笔友保持联系15年，称书信消除了“秒回焦虑”，让期待沉淀为惊喜。1 心理学者黄彬彬分析指出，写信属于“表达性写作”，能通过时间差促进反思，实现“情绪外化”和“表达即疗愈”。1

作家评论员王钟以王小波、鲁迅为例，阐述书信保存了作家的“活人感”和真实自我，区别于公开发表的文学作品。1 文中提到于杉使用“Slowly(慢慢)”App模拟真实邮寄时长，结识多国笔友。1

In an era dominated by instant messaging, a growing number of young people are turning back to handwritten letters and pen pal relationships as a form of "slow social" interaction. This trend reflects a deep-seated desire among contemporary youth for meaningful emotional connections and psychological healing 1. The phenomenon highlights how traditional correspondence is being reimagined not just as communication, but as a therapeutic practice that alleviates social anxiety and fosters introspection 1.

The resurgence of letter writing is illustrated by distinct personal experiences. On June 10, 2025, Wang Xizhao, a Chinese student studying in Switzerland, posted a call for pen pals and received over 3,000 letters in return, managing to reply to hundreds of them 1. For Wang, who has a background in Alzheimer's disease research, exchanging letters represents "swapping the weight of lives," allowing him to address complex issues like "anticipatory grief" with his correspondents 1. Similarly, Jiang Jia has maintained a 15-year connection with a pen pal, noting that the delay inherent in postal mail eliminates the "anxiety of instant replies," transforming expectation into surprise 1. Meanwhile, Yu Shan utilizes the "Slowly" app, which simulates real-time mailing durations, to connect with pen pals across multiple countries 1.

Experts suggest that this revival is rooted in the psychological benefits of delayed communication. Huang Binbin, a psychology scholar, explains that letter writing constitutes "expressive writing," where the time lag facilitates reflection and enables "externalization of emotions," ultimately achieving "expression as therapy" 1. Commentator Wang Zhong further elaborates on the authenticity of this medium, citing writers like Wang Xiaobo and Lu Xun to argue that private letters preserve a writer's "sense of living humanity" and true self, distinguishing them from publicly published literary works 1. Through these mechanisms, young people are constructing what can be described as "gardens of the spirit," using letters to externalize feelings and find solace amidst modern social pressures 1.