一位澳大利亚人分享了自己独特的友谊管理原则。1根据这一规则，在主动策划两次连续聚会后，如果对方不愿意主动发起第三次聚会，作者就会停止主动联系。1作者认为，"如果这些所谓的'朋友'不愿意互相回应，那么他们就不重视这段友谊"。1
这一原则曾导致作者与多位曾经的最好朋友切断了联系。1与其中一些朋友最后一次交流是在2021年。1初期的分离并不轻松，作者在最初的六到八个月里经历了困难，"不断地自责和自我怀疑"。1不过，随着时间推移，作者逐渐感到释然，并因此更加坚定地通过设定界限来优先考虑自己和真正的友谊。1作者后来与某些被切断联系的朋友和解，目前定期见面。1
An Australian shares a personal approach to maintaining friendships that has led to the loss of close relationships. 1 After taking the initiative to plan two consecutive social gatherings, the person applies a straightforward principle: "after planning two consecutive catch ups, I don't reach out for the third." 1 According to this framework, friends who fail to reciprocate demonstrate that "if these so called 'friends' are not willing to reciprocate, then they're not valuing the friendship." 1
The implementation of this rule has been emotionally taxing. 1 For the first six to eight months following the severing of friendships, the author struggled with self-blame and doubt. 1 The last communication with one such former friend occurred in 2021. 1 However, as time progressed, the author found peace with the decision and became comfortable enforcing boundaries to prioritize authentic connections and personal wellbeing. 1 Some friendships that were initially cut off have since been reconciled, with those individuals now meeting regularly. 1
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